A CONTROLLED TONGUE
When a person offends it’s because they are uncontrolled. We must learn to make a promise in the home to not use bad words or offenses. We shouldn’t verbally mistreat people because there is a line that shouldn’t be crossed. We shouldn’t shout or say bad words. Many people are used to speaking obscenely and using rude words, but the Bible encourages us to stop sinning with our mouths because we can light a whole fire with a small spark.
Sometimes we can hurt more with our words than our actions. There is poison in the tongue, and it can cause a lot of damage! We should ask the Holy Spirit to help us control our tongue.
Tips to solve conflicts in the family and not make the problem bigger:
- We need to learn to remain calm. A kind answer can calm anger, but an aggressive answer throws wood onto the fire. (Proverbs 15:1)
- Let’s learn to attack the problem and not people: Say: “I feel like you don’t pay attention to me!” Don’t say: “You don’t pay attention to me!”
- Let’s learn to listen: It is pleasing to be heard, it calms anger and brings comprehension.
- Let’s learn to ask for forgiveness: Sometimes all we need to do is ask for forgiveness and accept our mistakes.
- Let’s learn to not take things personally.
Think about it:
Have you offended your loved one with your words?
Who do you need to ask for forgiveness in your family?
Do you think it would be important to speak with your family about establishing rules to not cross the lines of respect?